You are not pathological. Your body is perfectly fine. You
are different. You may not see or hear.
You may not learn the way typical others do. You may not ambulate like
your average biped. You might have your
own language. You might not be verbal. Your body is perfectly. You are not
pathological. This should be your mantra. It is your mantra because we humans
are naturally curious. Difference is
interesting. Your body is interesting to others. Those others, ableists, who
abound consider you to be public property. You do not exist to satisfy typical others
curiosity. Rude and intrusive questions will be the norm. Strange social
interactions are inevitable.
At the dentists office, I fill out standard forms and list
medications. I transfer into the dental chair. Enter the dentist who looks over
the form and asks standard questions. Because this person is smart they are
also curious. I am asked How long have
you been paralyzed and how did it happen”. My first thought is fuck you. I
can’t say this but I can think it. I reply “How
does paralysis relate my dental care?” An uncomfortable silence ensues. I
have asserted my equality.
I am eating my lunch in a public place and a stranger comes
over to me and starts a conversation. Within 30 seconds I am asked “So, how did you become paralyzed? I am
in a cab and shortly after the vehicle starts the cabbie asks “What happened to you?” This is one of
the oldest questions I am asked and is a kin to the ancient phrase “Its so good to see you out”. None of the
people who ask rude and intrusive questions think they are being rude. None of
them woke up thinking people with a disability are interesting and I expect
them to answer any question that pops into their mind. They are ignorant. They
have simply absorbed knowledge about disability that is all wrong. A few days
ago a highly intelligent lawyer who teachers law told me how much she loved Me
Before You and what a great job the actor did “playing paralysis. I just loved the realism”.
You have the right of privacy—the same as any biped. Your
body is different. Celebrate that difference. I am injured at T-3. My lats are
huge and over developed. They give me a limited amount of trunk control. I am
proud of that muscle. I love my body. It has served me well. I plan to finish
my life by getting wvery last ounce of energy out of my crippled body.
Whatever has been lost in terms of bodily functioning you
have gained in adapting to that deficit. Bipeds and those with typical bodies will see
nothing more than a deficit. They do not see the gain. You are elite. You have
survived. You have adapted. You have overcome. You have not over come a
deficit. You have overcome baseless prejudice and have come out the other side
a different person. You are part of an oppressed minority group. Our people
represent the very best of humanity. We as a species would not exist without
the ability to adapt. Others see a deficit. I see a person and reject the
medicalization of the body. I see a strong tree like being that thrives when
thriving appears unlikely. We are wood. Strong and hard. Don’t dare push us. We
will push back with vengeance. Ed Roberts did this. I did this. Millions of
other have done so. You are not alone. You are never alone. You have people. We
people have power. Look at the gain and reject dominant socio cultural norms.
Reject ableism. Reject a medical model of disability being imposed on you. Do
not give the bipeds the satisfaction of buckling to needless pressure to
conform.
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