Anger Helps

In the Body Silent Robert Murphy wrote about two types of anger. The first, existential anger, involves a pervasive bitterness at one's fate. Existential anger fuels self hate and is tied to shame and guilt. I do not know any people with a disability that feel this sort of existential anger that is directed inward and is inherently self destructive. In contrast, I know many people without a disability that think all people with a disability are angry because of their physical disability. More than once I have been accused of having a "chip on my shoulder" or that it "always has to be about me". What these statements assume is that the problems I have, and obvious anger, is of my own making. But this is simply not the case. My anger does not stem from my inability to walk but the skewed social interaction, stigma, and fear placed on top of an existing physical deficit. This is a point most people in my experience don't grasp and gets me to the second type of anger, situational anger. I have lots of situational anger. Situational anger is why I consider myself a bad cripple. Simply put, situational anger is a personal reaction to a perceived injustice and a violation of one's civil rights. I am not angry because I cannot walk up the steps. I am angry because the law mandated a ramp be constructed and that law has been ignored for a decade. I am angry at the situation and needless physical barrier. I am equally angry when my civil rights are violated as when I try to vote or attend a sporting event without being harassed by strangers who object to my presence. Situational anger is very common because people with a disability are not valued and access is not a priority in this country. If people with a disability were truly valued the unemployment rate would not be near 70% nor would 67% of polling places be inaccessible to me.

To me, situational anger is good. Situational anger rejects commonly held stereotypes and involves asserting one's civil rights. I am all for this. And this is the best thing the disability rights movement has going for it. Interesting to me is that the people I encounter most willing or likely to become angry are not disabled themselves. Instead, the people I see become angry are parents of children with a disability. I wish I could figure out a way to forge a relationship with these angry parents because they have the ability to change our educational system, one that is profoundly flawed. Actually they are changing the way we educate children with a disability and by extension the way we perceive disability. Problems abound as does prejudicial attitudes, especially given the economy and tight school budgets. But I am hopeful because people, parents of children with a disability are fighting back and rejecting dominant socio-cultural norms. I know this to be true as I read editorials from all over the country and parents are asking why their kids with a disability do not have the same rights as others. For instance, in the Kansas City Star, hardly a radical newspaper, Lisa Cannady wrote about her experiences. On November 8, she wrote "Our Most Vulnerable People Deserve a Full Chance in Life". I quote:

"There is something, collectively, in us that has allowed us to ignore the most vulnerable among us. From the waiting list that thousands of Kansans with disabilities have to negotiate, to comments earlier this year by President Obama about the Special Olympics, it is clear that disabled people remained largely disenfranchised. This is the last taboo, the group that it is still acceptable to marginalize.
The ugly truth is that when the needs and rights of people with disabilities are not upheld, when indignities — the big ones and the little ones — are allowed to go unchecked, it tells this vulnerable population that they don’t deserve better. It tells them substandard care and consideration are all that special needs people are worthy of.
As the mom of a special needs child, I am not prepared to accept that as my child’s due. I am not raising my son to sit at the back of the bus."

Cannady is doing exactly what Robert Murphy wanted people with and without a disability to do: reject existential anger. Cannady is not angry her child has a disability, such anger would be counterproductive. She is angry with the prejudicial attitudes, needless obstacles, waiting lists and lack of value placed on educating students with disabilities. We have the power to change this and situational anger is one way to attack the problem. The real trick is not so much the anger involved but in getting society to see past the stereotype of disability as tragedy. As of today society is unwilling to understand why people with a disability are angry but with more parents and bad cripples being produced every day the chances for change are increasing. So this morning I extend a hearty cheers to a mother in Kansas who I have never met but know she is on my side. What a great way to start the day.